Congratulations, you're engaged!

You are engaged!  So what is next?  The 12 things you need to do straight after you get the engagement ring


1.     Call Your Relatives (Even the Ones You Never Really Talk to)

Engagement DOs and DON'Ts start almost the second you say yes. Your first task? Sharing the exciting news with the world. And how easy would it be to do so in 140 characters or fewer or with a quick status update? No matter how tempting this may be, you need to ensure that you call your parents, family members and friends first before you publish your engagement on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter.  No one likes to be the last to know—and getting the news via a mass e-mail, Twitter update, Facebook or Instgram post is especially upsetting and a rotten thing to do. So, set aside a few hours and go through your phone book (you can enlist your Mum, Sister, Aunt or another family member to help you out, as they will be delighted to do so).

2.     Get Your Ring Sized

Your stunning engagement is just perfect in every way, except for the wiggle room, or maybe it's a little tight and turning the tip of your finger a little purple, then you most definitely need to get your engagement ring resized ASAP—after all, you will be showing it to everyone and the last thing you want is to lose the ring an hour after being proposed to and the engagement ring being popped onto your finger! The process can take just a few hours or, at most, a couple of days.

3.     Get Your Ring Insured

Nothing can replace the sentimental value of your gorgeous and new engagement ring, but if something happens to it, at least you can get your (or his) money returned. If you have home insurance, call your insurance company to add the ring to your home insurance policy.  You may need an official appraisal before you can add the ring to the home insurance policy, so call your insurance company or broker to see what necessary paperwork is required.

4.     Set a Date

After "congratulations" and "let me see your ring," here's the first thing people will ask: "When's the wedding?" It'll save you lots of headaches if you both agree a date with a vague-yet-specific answer, like "We're aiming for early 2020" or "We like the idea of a Winter wedding."  People appreciate feeling like they're in the loop, and they will also put the date into their mental diaries. Plus, it'll give you and your fiancé clear direction as you begin to start planning for your Wedding day.

5.     Create a Wedding Blog

Now that you've told everyone the good news, why not set up a Wedding site or blog to keep everyone up to date with all of your Wedding planning news and events.  Post photos, write your "how we met" story, have a guestbook, make it as personal and interactive as you want. Make sure you list the main parts of your Wedding first; later on, you can get start to add more elaboration around your wedding details, hotel advice, maps, quizzes, daily thoughts and whatever other wedding particulars and playfulness you want to share.  Send your blog to those who ask, but be prepared for the fact that your Parents and your Best Friend may be the only ones who want to read it!

6.     Daydream (a Lot)

Get a heap load of Wedding magazines, watch Father of the Bride for feel-good tears, look at maps for honeymoon ideas.  Give yourself permission to let your brain turn into its own Wedding channel. If you haven't been planning your Wedding since you turned five, that's OK; now's a good time to collect ideas that inspire you and to learn what you want—and don't want—for your Wedding and Wedding Day.

7.     Plan a Night Out with Just Your Fiancé

Until the celebrations and parties and wedding are finally over, there's not going to be much "just the two of you" moments. Get in some good face time with each other now—and make it a point not to talk wedding details. Yes, there's a ton to do, but for now, it's perfectly OK to hit the town and celebrate—just you and him.

8.     Get a Wedding Planner

No, not a wedding planner person—at least not yet. Get an iPhone app, a datebook, a calendar or some other kind of keep-organized device to help you create a timeline for major wedding-related tasks. While you're at it, pick up a wedding-planning binder to keep all those inspirational ideas you found in step 6.

9.     Think About Whether You Want a Wedding Coordinator or Want to Go It Alone

Review the elements of your wedding that'll take a little planning—negotiating with bakers and caterers for the best prices, finding the ideal venue, organizing party favors—and figure out if those are tasks you want to tackle alone or if you'd rather hire a wedding planner (stress reduction and a little time-saving sounds nice, right?). Keep in mind that a wedding coordinator will cost extra money, so make sure the option fits into your budget before you give it serious consideration.

10. Start a Wedding Savings Account

Remember that even a simple, small wedding costs money (and sometimes a lot more money than you would ever imagine). A wedding savings account is an easy way to keep cash accumulating for the big day, so you don't have to rely on plastic to bear the brunt later on. Open a basic savings account at any bank—or look online for higher-interest accounts at sites like and—then deposit a set amount every paycheck that'll go toward wedding-related expenses only.

11.  Ask Your Parents (and His) for Their Ideal Guest Lists

Before you start putting a number on how many guests you want, it's time to ask both your parents about whom they'd most want to invite. Be sure to tell them this is just a preliminary list and things might change—it's on paper, not set in stone. After you have their "dream" lists, you can add and edit and trim. Helpful hint: Ask them to help prioritise their wish list by breaking it into tiers—it'll help you make cuts later on.

12.  Chill Out and Have Fun!

Take time to relax—get a massage, sleep in when you can. This is a once-in-a-lifetime event purely about you and your fiancé. You are allowed to enjoy it!